tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post6451430118010180277..comments2023-07-30T07:46:13.819-07:00Comments on Life Lessons: When Your Adult Children Need LimitsLife Lessonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00059101479095237739noreply@blogger.comBlogger234125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-3479748129276914862020-03-09T03:27:14.203-07:002020-03-09T03:27:14.203-07:00Very well said. You are absolutely right. The only...Very well said. You are absolutely right. The only thing that hurts is when other people talking about their children, visiting them and respecting them. It is painful to think of how I did even more than the neighbours for my child and she turned out to be a disrespectful and big disgrace. It hurts a lot. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044675282545100006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-832166018848341422020-03-08T05:31:48.224-07:002020-03-08T05:31:48.224-07:00It sounds exactly the same. I feel now I found cur...It sounds exactly the same. I feel now I found cure for my pain.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044675282545100006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-75660575286583328732020-03-08T05:22:54.195-07:002020-03-08T05:22:54.195-07:00I only can see you are spoilt and disrespectful gr...I only can see you are spoilt and disrespectful grown up childish person. I feel sad for you. How can you be so poor personality. I only hope you will learn your lesson the hard way when you become adult parent to your own disrespectful children. Good luck with your silly decision to cut connection with the people gave you so much when you were little. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044675282545100006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-21985166553250173472020-03-07T15:39:10.004-08:002020-03-07T15:39:10.004-08:00Thank you for your message. This opened my eyes fi...Thank you for your message. This opened my eyes finally. I have been stupid for so many years punishing myself and waiting for my daughter to wake up, to realise her mistakes, to return back to us. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044675282545100006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-46647546560202448372020-03-07T02:30:37.650-08:002020-03-07T02:30:37.650-08:00Do not blame yourself and your marriage. I am stil...Do not blame yourself and your marriage. I am still married for my daughter father but the situation is the same. She hides where she lives in and always busy to meet me or visit. Do not worry, they will get what they deserve. The life is cruel. They will learn the hard way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044675282545100006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-39765190172401996172020-03-07T02:17:01.455-08:002020-03-07T02:17:01.455-08:00This is what in my head too. Five years ago we did...This is what in my head too. Five years ago we did what you are planning. We sold and moved the house so daughter lost chance to terrorise us. I do regret for all I did for her. She has been very spoiled and disrespectful child but I believed when become adult she will understand more and will change. Unfortunately things went from bad to worse. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044675282545100006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-8308785222663993622020-03-07T02:06:31.417-08:002020-03-07T02:06:31.417-08:00Thank you for all you say. This is my wake up call...Thank you for all you say. This is my wake up call. I have been suffering from the same for so many years. Enough is enough. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044675282545100006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-59809413866886877172020-01-29T22:29:12.972-08:002020-01-29T22:29:12.972-08:00I too am there first of all it was my partner who ...I too am there first of all it was my partner who died molested her next it was my new husband who refused to let her sleep till god knows what time molested her also 32 this year she is and now all is my fault yes i did have a choice to abort also my sister would have adopted her then how my mom was always a better mom than me cue the ex fiancee (her dad)who physically tried to make sure i aborted her cops and court at eighteen for me to protect my unborn child her antics have made me sick for years then comes my neice and her were ion ice together!<br />the death threats were the least of the worries.My son 30 next week called me once foe 400 dollars for a bill.<br />I too was a single parent i do not get it thank you for letting me know i am not alone now at 52 also cutting all ties for sanity's sake.<br />God bless you all we are not alone.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15177546001426318930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-81676413490821826582020-01-27T06:03:18.019-08:002020-01-27T06:03:18.019-08:00Wendy I know this is an old post but my story too....Wendy I know this is an old post but my story too. She already divided our family, next was going to be my husband and I. My MIL couldn't see how our daughter was verbally abusing us with silent treatments, demands, lies, etc. Same with the "other new family" that she raises up before her own parents, both my daughter and son in law can continue on their merry lives together. We now are estranged from soon to be 4 grandkids. I wish them well and pray. Had to let go because I had to give myself self love and boundaries that are VERY important in every relationship. I hope things have changed for you for the good. After joining support groups and hearing various/similar stories, I've realized it is a silent epidemic in the world... and the more I open up to others, some friends have shared their same stories with me. We hurt, always will, but have to let go. We have chosen No Contact. We do have a son that is still loving us. He understands his sister is messed up and doing wrong and he has chosen to no longer speak with her, either. It's all very sad but we have to find joy in those that do love us and support us. Mom that has Chosen No Contact to Survivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16827608061747377630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-24924579792766294132020-01-26T23:49:29.697-08:002020-01-26T23:49:29.697-08:00OMG my 26 year old daughter sounds just the same a...OMG my 26 year old daughter sounds just the same as yours. Trouble is she has a year old and is turning her against me too. I am absolutely heartbroken and want my daughter back but she cares nothing for me and blanks me in my own house, where we all live. I even moved out of my own home for 4 months last year hoping space would help. However nothing changed when I came back. I'm so scared of losing my granddaughter too. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11420305703069038756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-51023738528370442082019-09-15T15:40:01.957-07:002019-09-15T15:40:01.957-07:00Maybe you need to speak the truth. How can they kn...Maybe you need to speak the truth. How can they know what they don’t know!missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00539108954932744787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-79656180988693497152019-09-15T14:11:04.186-07:002019-09-15T14:11:04.186-07:00I have a son who is 34 and he treats me like shit ...I have a son who is 34 and he treats me like shit this has been going on since he was 12 my husband and I have had enough<br />we lost are daughter almostAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11262686042168639714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-83595004003565794412019-09-13T08:52:40.256-07:002019-09-13T08:52:40.256-07:00Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11262686042168639714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-23421600036654135132019-07-27T21:12:18.882-07:002019-07-27T21:12:18.882-07:00I just want to say thank you to everyone who share...I just want to say thank you to everyone who shared their story here and to everyone who will post in the future. My husband and I will be back to read these posts. For the first time ever I actually feel free. We have three kids and the craziness has gone on so long I wouldn't have enough room here to write but one thing that I know is that I am drawing a line in the sand. Writing "My Kids" behind it and then physically stepping over that line forward to where I am writing "My husband and our new life" life is just too short to be around folk who hate you whether you birthed them or not. God bless ever one and "Vive la Released Parents"! lolSoblessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07321996897144773144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-23305146050991705792019-06-25T22:51:55.928-07:002019-06-25T22:51:55.928-07:00My son waits until I'm asleep then takes my cr...My son waits until I'm asleep then takes my credit card and goes out. When I asked him to repay me he pouts. My daughter tells me to fuck off regularly then flips and is sweet as pie. I'm so done.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00629813272518726353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-42350371151172263312019-06-25T22:43:51.558-07:002019-06-25T22:43:51.558-07:00Love this. It's where I. Too. My 22 year old h...Love this. It's where I. Too. My 22 year old has been abusive for years. She blames me for literally everything, says mean things to me, calls me names and when she is angry,cusses at me. Yet I'm literally the only person who has stayed by her side all along. The majority of the literature blames the parents. I have tried everything I could think of: taking her to therapy, trying to reason with her, setting hard boundaries, even locking her out after a violent episode and making her sign a contract to come home. It worked for a few months then went downhill again. Now she is telling me who I can and can't date and making it impossible to have a life of my own without conflict with her. I'm at my wit's end. So comforting to know I'm not alone. My friends just roll their eyes at me, say kick her out or tell me it's my fault. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00629813272518726353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-71413809497305937402019-06-22T16:52:01.792-07:002019-06-22T16:52:01.792-07:00I truly love this!
I truly love this!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071184287035693724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-78372591765938341862018-11-21T15:07:19.358-08:002018-11-21T15:07:19.358-08:00I have just told my son who has been repeatedly dr...I have just told my son who has been repeatedly drunk and disrespectful off and on since he was old enough to do so, that I will no longer be in his life helping him buy a house, sell the house, and countless other things to make his life better as he continually loses jobs and a footing in life. When he is drunk he says he never wants to see me again, so today I told him he could have his wish. This is a child who I home schooled him in high school when he wanted to drop out. I have allowed him to live with us for years off and on when he was so addicted to everything you could think of that he lost his apartment, job, friends what have you! After I told him I would not be in his life anymore he could not believe it. He began to cry and say he was sorry, but I held fast and told him from now on he could deal with his father. Last night I sat in the bathtub and cried my eyes out because again he was so full of hatred for me I feared for my safety. This is the reason I decided to end this relationship even though I gave up my ,(C-section) career (stayed home with him because he would not stay with a sitter), and many happy times that I would have had with his dad as we have a good marriage. We just recently marketed his house for a $90,000 profit, but that was not enough. Now he says he will smoke dope and drink until the money is gone refusing to get another job. It is difficult to believe how this 33 year old adult acts as compared to how he acted before age 13. It was like an alien moved in at puberty and never left. I am all done taking this abuse! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06828229606189151335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-49084525646013914682018-11-12T06:55:42.809-08:002018-11-12T06:55:42.809-08:00*Derserves*DerservesAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05022486816984543998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-77737539307774267352018-11-12T06:54:40.104-08:002018-11-12T06:54:40.104-08:00No Soul of ANY Kind destdese to be Abused. Just. W...No Soul of ANY Kind destdese to be Abused. Just. Walk. Away.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05022486816984543998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-48220456561468599292018-10-16T02:31:52.989-07:002018-10-16T02:31:52.989-07:00Amen to the ladies who understood their mothers we...Amen to the ladies who understood their mothers were not equipped to give what they did not have. This touches my heart.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05473710765519702819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-90384947208916512382018-10-07T19:08:51.026-07:002018-10-07T19:08:51.026-07:00Can I just say thank you a million times to all of...Can I just say thank you a million times to all of you? I recently went through a faith transition leaving my very oppressive patriarchal religion at age 56. Only 1 of my 5 daughters is still practicing the faith so I recognize I have evolved, become more open, and no longer take crap. I am different because I am trying to not be codependent and an enabler to my grown kids. Three of my girls (32,31, & 26) are furious that I am no longer watching the dogs or their kids when ever they ask. I have read books on setting healthy boundaries and now they won't let me see my grand-kids, they say I have to earn it back. Grand-kids grow up just like our children and even though it's hard I am tired and just don't want to do it anymore. I want the rest of my life to be my adventure and not longer live their life. My husband and I are confused about all of this but are enjoying the free time together. I wasn't a perfect mom and I will admit that, but they weren't perfect kids. Cealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09196528770658343959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-69453385863287056592018-09-22T20:29:40.285-07:002018-09-22T20:29:40.285-07:00Wow,I'm so glad I came across this article I t...Wow,I'm so glad I came across this article I thought I was alone in this toxic relationship with my 35 year old daughter. I pray that we all find the peace we deserve whether the adult children come around or not. The most heartbreaking part is the grandkids. I tried telling my daughter for years that she was showing her daughter, now almost 15, how to have a relationship with her mother & now it's coming true. I've done nothing to warrant her disrespect, advised counseling & listened to her dump on me about her miserable life that SHE chose. 5 kids by 3 men, the last 2 twins & 1 had been in & out the hospital most of his 1 1/2 years. We will reclaim our sanity, peace & respect that is due us! God bless you all! 💞👌🏽🙏🏾 Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10687890418726864312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-88053215760714843932018-09-21T05:03:06.538-07:002018-09-21T05:03:06.538-07:00I have read this section for past couple of days a...I have read this section for past couple of days and appreciate it so much. I will repeat to read this to get stronger and stronger to disconnect from my disrespectful ungrateful daughter. I am not taking the rut of her anger any longer. She is on her own. Its a sad world out there that there are so many mothers that are dealing with this. With the holidays coming around the corner Im sure she will knock for us to buy gifts for our grandson which we will but this time we will be opening with my grandson at his fathers house. Done being taken advantage of and then cursed after she gets what she wants. This page makes me strong. Thank you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01539354672835521318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2345633046640587537.post-5217966783218017562018-09-18T20:42:16.818-07:002018-09-18T20:42:16.818-07:00In getting strong too. I'm 63 and this is brea...In getting strong too. I'm 63 and this is breaking my heart. I have 4 adult children 33-44 and never in my worst nightmare could I have seen this implosion of my family. It hurts.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01621743817622323262noreply@blogger.com